by Lori Osterberg
“I feel stuck.I want more in my life, but I don’t know what. My life is the same every day. I don’t know what to choose or what I’m supposed to do next. There’s this piece missing.”
A lot of women feel this way at one time or another. But what you choose to do with those feelings will ultimately seal your fate. All it takes is a little confidence in yourself, trusting that deep within…and knowing that ultimately you are on the path you are meant to be on. And you can start down this path by doing a few things right now.
1. Stop pleasing everyone else
Women are people pleasers; that’s what we do best. Yet the more you please others, the more you suppress what is really going on inside of you. To be the best you can be, stop hesitating about what works for you in order to make others happy. Learn to say no to others once in awhile, and say yes to you.
2. Stop wasting time worrying
Time is the most valuable commodity we have. If you put your focus on the negative, you disengage from the things that are possible. A confident woman concentrates on things that will move her forward.
3. Stop doubting yourself
Second-guessing your actions stops you before you even try. Say “yes” more every day.
4. Stop putting your needs last
Have you ever said things like “when my daughter goes to school, when we have more money in the bank, when the kids are a little older?” We all justify actions by blaming our circumstances on the things happening around us. By giving yourself the time you need to do what interests you, the happier you will be, and the more you will have to give to those around you.
5. Stop judging yourself by your failures
We have successes and we have failures, and sometimes we let failure define us rather than guide us to our true potential. A confident woman knows that failure is simply fear of the unknown. And if we choose to move past our fears and do it anyway, great things are waiting to happen.
6. Stop ignoring your instincts
We all have that little inner voice that guides us and directs us throughout the day. That inner voice is always there, yet it’s easy to lose sight of what it’s trying to tell you. Trust that inner voice.
7. Stop denying yourself
Regret comes from not doing the things you most want to do. And when you hold yourself back, you spend too much time worrying about what you can’t have instead of what you can. Learn to eat better... and give yourself a hot fudge sundae every once in a while. Take care of everyone else’s needs... and schedule a night with a hot bubble bath, a glass of wine and a good novel too.
Confidence gives you a reason to be more comfortable in your own skin, and to do the things that are best for you. And the better you get, the more you have to give!